We are pleased you are considering Living Faith Church as the place for your wedding!
The following has been prepared to assist you in thinking through a joyous and successful wedding day.
If you have any questions, the church wedding coordinator and Pastor will be happy to answer them.
Marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman and God.
Planning for weddings can be fun, yet at times frustrating. It is a time when we feel that we are on an emotional roller coaster in the midst of a multitude of unfinished tasks. Therefore,
it is vital to make provision for the Lord to enter into the center of our plans. We can send all our engraved invitations, secure the best caterers, get the most talented musicians, and reserve the nicest stained-glassed chapel-and then forget the most important thing: The Lord himself belongs in the center of the wedding service, and even more importantly, in the center of our lives. You are planning a worship service where you are inviting God and man to participate with you as you make some very solemn vows to each other. Claim God’s presence and His promises for your lives as you vow to live for Him and for each other.
What do you do first?
* Contact the pastor
- Pick the date of the
- Discuss dates and times for your Pre-Marital counseling. Pastor Pat does a 4 hour marriage preparation class with each couple.
- Pastor Pat is on the county Premarital Preparation Course Provider List and the completion of the class will save $30+ on your marriage license.
- Discuss the date and time of the rehearsal.
- Tell the Pastor at this time if you have another pastor you would like to be involved in some way.
- Discuss the marriage license.
* Contact the Wedding Coordinator
- Discuss the date and time of the wedding, get it on the church calendar to reserve the building.
- Discuss order of service and the program (who will make it?) We have samples to look at.
- Pick scripture for the ceremony.
- Discuss decorating and what will need to be arranged differently at the church. We just ask that someone is in charge of getting the church back in order after the ceremony.
- Discuss time for rehearsal.
- Discuss ushers, if they will seat guests on separate sides, and who will escort in the mothers and grandmothers.
- Discuss who will be in charge of guestbook, programs, flowers, etc. the day of the wedding.
- We have seats for 300 people. Discuss seat capacity needs.
- Discuss the bride’s room and where the bride and bridesmaids can take pictures before the ceremony.
- Discuss if the couple will see each other before the ceremony- the men will need to stay in the front of the church or music room.
- Discuss how many are in the wedding party and how you would like to stand during the ceremony.
* Contact the Pianist
- The church pianist can help pick the songs for the prelude, processional, recessional and postlude.
- The pianist can help you pick songs for solos if you have someone you would like to sing.
(Some people opt for a cd to be played for music or hire string quartets, etc.)
Planning the Rehearsal
On the day/evening of the rehearsal the members of the wedding party, parents, grandparents (optional), ushers should attend. It is important to be prompt. Sometimes a written invitation to the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner helps thing run smoother.
1. Welcome and Prayer
2. Introductions so everyone knows names.
3. Get positioned in the front to show how you will stand.
4. Practice Recessional
5. Practice Processional with music
6. Run through the order of service
7. Practice Recessional again
8. Make sure church is decorated and ready to go!
The Day of the Wedding
- The church will be open one hour prior to the ceremony. It is a good idea to have ushers arrive one hour prior to ceremony time to seat early guests.
- All other family and wedding party members should arrive at least ½ hour prior to ceremony time.
- We allow bird seed, rice, rose petals, or bubbles to be thrown at the newly married couple leaving the church.
- Receiving lines are a matter of personal decision. It is suggested that the bridal party host a receiving line at their reception or immediately after the ceremony.
- Please designate someone to make sure the church is back in order prior to going to the reception.
There is no cost for weddings for members of Living Faith Church. For non-members, we love to be a part of your special day and will work with you if you are experiencing financial hardship. What follows are guidelines for those who are financially able. We are happy to consult with you about music, the program, multimedia and other plans. We don’t charge a strict fee, but the following list will help you to decide what to give those involved for their time and effort. The church incurs expenses for lighting, air conditioning, wear and tear, etc., so a gift for the church is welcomed. All weddings differ, so you may or may not need all of the following:
- Musicians $60-100 each
- Wedding Coordinator $50-100
- Tech persons $25-75 each (sound and multi-media)
- Janitor $50 per building used (unless you leave the facility clean and exactly as you found it)
- Sanctuary $300
- Reception Hall $200
Pastor Pat provides premarital counseling and preparation for the wedding itself. An honorarium to him is appreciated.
Pastor Pat will perform a wedding off site. Please give consideration for travel costs if your wedding is held at a distant location.
- Our sanctuary has a maximum occupancy of 300 people. We ask that the facilities be left in orderly condition after the ceremony.
- Our reception hall, is suitable for receptions of no more than 110 people.
- There is no cooking on site (due to kitchen regulations), so food will need to be prepared off site. There are a couple stoves there for caterers to use for warming purposes only.
- No Alcohol may be served at receptions in our facilities for liability reasons.
- Since most weddings are on Saturdays and since the facility needs to be presentable for Sunday morning services, we ask that receptions go no later than 11:00 PM to give consideration to our neighbors and custodians.
- We have round tables that seat 8 people. Food, set up, table cloths, tableware etc. is your responsibility.
- We would ask that all leftover food etc. be removed after the reception and that the facility be left in a orderly condition so our custodial work is minimal.
The following is a typical wedding processional. It can certainly be modified based on your particular situation.
(Ushers take right arm of women and escort them to their seat- men follow behind.
1. The groom, best man, groomsmen (if desired) and officiant enter by using a side door. They all stand facing the guests.
2. An usher escorts the grandmother(s) of the bride to their seats.
3. An usher escorts the grandmother(s) of the groom to their seats.
4. An usher escorts the mother of the bride to her seat.
5. An usher escorts the mother of the groom to her seat.
(The mothers may light the outside candles of unity at this time.)
6. The ushers walk down the aisle (or escort the bridesmaids) and stand next to the groom and best man and then face the guests.
7. The bridesmaids walk down the aisle.
8. The maid of honor walks down the aisle.
9. The ring bearer walks down the aisle.
10. The flower girl walks down the aisle (dropping petals or carrying flowers). (Many times the flower girl and ring bearer will walk together.)
— Two ushers remain to bring down aisle runner.–
11. The father of the bride escorts the bride down aisle.
What does it all mean?
The Aisle Runner
The aisle runner symbolized walking on holy ground.
The Bride’s Veil
The veil represents modesty and respect. It symbolizes the sanctity and exclusiveness of the marriage covenant and reminds the couple and the witnesses that the physical relationship is to be entered into only after the vows are completed.
The Bride’s Bouquet
Bridal bouquets have evolved through the ages. Saracen brides carried bouquets of orange blossoms to symbolize fertility, and Roman brides carried sheaves of wheat to symbolize prosperity for their husbands. In the eighteenth century, the practice of carrying a bouquet of flowers or herbs became a popular tradition which symbolized fragility, purity, and new life. Bouquets of dill were among the most popular herb carried. After the ceremony the dill was eaten to “provoke lust.” Today, the bridal bouquets are tosses to assembled single women to symbolize new life and to pass on the bride’s good fortune.
The Unity Candle
In a unity candle ceremony, the groom’s parents and the bride’s parents each light a separate taper candle, representing the wedding couple as individuals. The bride and groom then take those individual taper candles and use them to light a larger pillar candle together. This symbolizes the coming together of the bride and groom, and the two families as one.
Rice and Petals
In the Middle Ages, handfuls of wheat were thrown over the married couples to symbolize the hope for fertility. In modern times, rice is thrown instead of wheat to symbolize fertility. In recent years, flower petals have become another alternative, symbolizing beauty, happiness, and prosperity.
Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue
Old and new items jointly symbolize the passage from the old unmarried state to that of the new married union. The wearing of a borrowed belonging demonstrates community participation and approval of the wedding. Blue is worn because it is the color that signifies purity, love, and fidelity.
White Aisle Runner
A white aisle runner symbolizes walking on holy ground. A marriage covenant is not made merely between two people and their witnesses. It is made in the presence of God and He is actively involved in the agreement. The white aisle runner symbolizes God’s holiness.
Special Seating for the Parents
The parents of the bride and groom are part of the marriage covenant. The commitments they make during the ceremony are just as binding as the vows of the couple. The final responsibility of parents for their children is to determine with them God’s will for a life partner. Thereafter, they serve in a chain of counsel for them and their children. Parents enter in the line of authority and leave in the line of counsel.
The Groom Entering First
By this action the groom signifies that he is the covenant initiator. This is important because whoever initiates the covenant assumes greater responsibility for seeing it fulfilled.
The Father of the Bride Walking Down the Aisle
This action has two meanings. By doing so, the father says to the bride, “I am endorsing this young man as God’s very best choice of a husband for you, and I am now bringing you to him.” In addition, the father is saying to the young man, “I am presenting you a daughter who I have earnestly endeavored to raise as a pure bride.”
The Groom Making the First Marriage Vow
The groom must be the leader and assume greater responsibility for fulfilling the marriage covenant. As covenant initiator, he must commit himself to the purposes of marriage which God established in the beginning, and these must be reflected in his vows.
The Symbolism of the Wedding Rings
The wedding rings symbolize the promise between two people together in marriage. The unbroken circle of the wedding band represents the continuity of undying love. Greek theory believed the fourth finger of the left hand to be connected to the heart, making this the appropriate finger to be “bound” in romantic attachment.
Kissing the Bride
During the Roman empire, the kiss between a couple symbolized a legal bond. Continued use of the kiss to seal the marriage bond is based on the deeply rooted idea of the kiss as a vehicle for transference of power and souls.
The Couple Being Pronounced “Husband and Wife”
This establishes their change of names and a definite point in time for the beginning of the marriage. These words are to remove any doubt in the minds of the couple or their witnesses concerning the validity of the marriage.
Signing the Guest Book
Your wedding guests are official witness to the covenant. By signing the guest book, they are saying, “I have witnessed the vows, and I will testify to the reality of the marriage.” Because of this significance, the guest book should be signed after the wedding rather than before it.
The Meaning of Serving Food at the Reception
Food is part of the covenant celebration. It further symbolizes the unity of the couple. Entering into a meal itself is a form of covenant.
The Bride and Groom Feeding Wedding Cake to Each Other
This represents the sharing of their bodies to become one. A New Testament illustration of this symbolism is The Lord’s Supper.
Borne from different cultures and passed down through the generations, traditions can add a unique touch to your special day.